Apr. 15th, 2009 02:17 pm
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I've opted for getting a notification if someone on my friends list de-friends me. And it doesn't work, damnit.

It's not that I'm going to start a whingefest when I'm de-friended, unlike some who pestered me endlessly via e-mail when I decided I wasn't particularly interested in what they had to say. I don't think it's horrible to be de-friended, on LJ or IRL, and dog knows I de-friend quite a bit myself (interestingly, usually only IRL, it apparently takes a lot more to bore me or piss me off online).

I just like to know when it occurs. In this case, I can easily find the notification message about the person friending me, but the de-friending is nowhere to be found.

Actually, I probably won't de-friend back, since I enjoy reading this particular journal and don't have a hang-up on mutual friending, but I would have appreciated a notification so I could stop commenting, at least. I'm uncomfortable with pushing my comments on someone who isn't all that interested in me, and I strongly dislike feeling that I'm being pushy.

I've been told on several occasions that I'm very un-pushy, and I think my notion of my own pushiness is probably exaggerated, but even if nobody else on the planet find it irritating that a de-friended person yaks all over their journal, I would prefer being notified so I could peacefully read and keep my comment-gob shut.

Oh how I hate it when nifty features don't do what they're supposed to do.

Anyway. I require more interesting and preferably amusing journals to read. Do you have any suggestions, friends list?

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Date: 2009-04-16 01:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I also opted for notification if someone defriends me. Sometimes I get the notification, sometimes I don't. On my PC I used to use a fairly nifty LJ client called Semagic, and it always tells you when stuff like that happens. Sadly Semagic doesn't work on a Mac, and there don't seem to be any decent LJ clients for the Mac.

After five years on LJ I'm still not entirely certain of the whole friending/defriending etiquette.

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Date: 2009-04-17 12:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I've tried Semagic and didn't become friends with it, partly because I use three different PCs and yaaaawwwn at installing everything everywhere.

I hate friending people. I feel like I'm plopping down in their laps and spilling their coffee. On the other hand, I'm terribly flattered when someone friends me first, so I have no idea why I think it's so horrible to be friended by me.

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Date: 2009-04-18 05:38 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I usually wait for people to friend me first as well.

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Date: 2009-04-17 11:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I've opted for getting a notification if someone on my friends list de-friends me. And it doesn't work, damnit.

Mine tells me when the Russian spambots friend me and three weeks later when they de-friend me.

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Date: 2009-04-19 11:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Oh, the notification thingy is VERY attentive when the bots friend and de-friend.

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